“What causes fights and quarrels between you? Don’t they come from your desires, that battle within you? You want something but you don’t get it. You kill and covert, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.
Well, if you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other simply because two people cannot walk together unless they have agreed to do so, even then, if you both secretly still cherish different believe systems, your priorities and values will conflict all the time, hence why every kingdom or household divided against itself will be ruined and any couple that does not share a common vision will not stand”.
James 4v1-2 and Galatians 5v15, Amos 3v3 and Matthew 12v25
Divorce counseling
Yes, divorce is not always the answer, though in some cases, the shoe fits perfectly. Divorce cases can be very complicated, confusing and expensive if you don’t have the right legal support to help you see the process through to the end without losing your head or messing up the future of your kids along the way, but to give yourself a second chance to life because divorce is not the end but the beginning of new endless possibilities.
Our suggested 11 STEPS you must consider before separation
We suggest 12 weeks of focused marriage coaching to help you both give it your best short whiles living together before closure, it gives the couple the opportunity to FIGHT FOR THEIR MARRIAGE with a professional advisor on their side.
2-6 MONTHS CONTROLLED RECONSTRUCTIVE SEPARATION is the next step if the 2 months living together whiles working on your marriage does not yield the expected results. At this point it is good for the two to initiate temporary separation to test or find out whether after being alone for at least 3 months, will it change anyone’s feelings.
If it all fails, we then initiate a clean DIVORCE COUNSELING between the both of you in order to end things well and amicably.
After your divorce counseling, we set you up for your CO-PARENTING PLAN in order to create a solid parenting strategy necessary for the court later on, it just makes things easier and less expensive if you do it yourself.
Now you ready to discuss your DIVORCE SETTLEMENT AGREEMENT outside the court before including any lawyers to avoid up’s and downs, unending court dates that will cost you too much money by staging an uncontested divorce case.
After your divorve settlement, you now ready to make your FAMILY ANNOUNCEMENT in order to inform both In-laws of your decision to end your marriage.
Now you can bring in a lawyer to help you both wrap up everything in court for the COURT DIVORCE JUDGEMENT, this is a necessary court legal process everyone must follow without (DIY), the do it yourself approach.
After your divorce is complete, you can now start your SELF-REDISCOVERY coaching sessions. This step will help you to clean up your past and initiate healing if necessary before you enter the next relationship. Its time to reinvent yourself!
Step 8 simply means you are ready to enter the DATING & COURTSHIP scene again.
Step 9 is a must before getting to excited about getting married, PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING. Make sure you do it right this time, Eccl 10v10 is the key.
Step 10 is your WEDDING DAY PLANNING. We have amazing wedding planners for you when you ready to walk down the aisle.
Cost: R950 per 1hr consultation